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Monday, October 30, 2006

Scribbles of a wandering mind - Part Deux(that's 2 for the uninitiated)

I wasn't going to write another blog so soon,,ESPECIALLY not a continuation of my "Scribbles" series. But some comments regarding the latter part of my blog (Games with Girls theme) prompted me to write one ASAP.

So here Goes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As i've said, it is the comments to my earlier blog "Scribbles of a wandering mind" that has made me write another edition of that series. I wouldn't really pay that much attention usually to comments, but this time it's different. Not only was my "take" dismissed by a very close friend of mine, but her comments was also backed up by an anon writer (female).'s a matter of pride,ego and good old MANHOOD that i must uphold my HONOUR and stand up to my ideas in the face of adversity.

Now then,,let's BEGIN.

First of all, i would like to say to both the gals who replied to me with their views - " CLOSE,,,but no CIGAR"


SImply coz i had already expected this reply , and other on these lines when i clearly wrote "Lady
readers of this blog would surely say everything from "This guy's
NUTS,this plan of action will never work." to " How MEAN!!Playing
around with girls' feelings" and everything in between,"
. I have also written the underlying reason behind those replies which is "It's
all a smokescreen to really hide the frustration that'll come up by
seeing that girls' NO LONGER will have the upper hand in initiating
hookups with guys."

But another question popped up in my mind. Why is it that gals want simple straightforward moves from guys when they themselves go about doing anything BUT.

You still with me???

What i mean to say is,,how many of us haven't seen the following "theatrics" by gals when it comes to guys. Here's a point by point breakdown for ease of follow :-

  1. A gal would be sneaking looks at a guy,,but when the guy makes eye contact with a gal, the gal will almost always fastidiously tilt, more like JERK,  her neck away from the guy and start looking at everything from the clouds to the stars to Pigeons shitting on top of a wire(well, maybe not THAT). Now it's understandable in most cases that gals don't want unwanted attention and their lack of making eye contact is justified,,BUT,,,when you see eye contact being made multiple times (started by the gal) and you see this "neck craning" happening. It does become amusing and frustrating at the same time. Amusing coz this peek-a-boo is fun,,but frustrating coz after a while we (guys) start thinking, "what the hell man?? Either pass a smile and take this forward,,or cease this childish eye-sneaks and go about your business". Now the gal's logic behind doing such theatrics,,,well,,you figure it out. I've stopped trying.
  2. A movie outing is a case study in theatrics in itself. For one,,Gals NEVER say directly that they wanna see a particular movie. They'll drop hints like "ooh this movie seems cool", "Mere friends keh rahe hain bahuuuuuut achchi hai", "ooooh!! Hrithik/Abhi/Zayed etc etc(replace with your fav hero figure here) is in it". Longer the "oooooh",,more interested is the gal in seeing the movie and more pressing is the hint for the guy to book the tickets. In most cases these hints do work when the movie is one which both the gal and the guy can equally enjoy,,but when a movie comes that's strictly in the catagory of "girly movies" like  gooey romance(Titanic,,YUCK. Karan Johar movies......ULTRA YUCK) and the gal wants the guy to take her,,these theatrics come to naught. But then again,,gals being gals,,you won't expect them to straightly say "ok i want to see this movie, would you like to come????"..Oh hell NO....It never happens. Then one fine day the guy would find out that the gal missed the movie and is right royally pissed at the guy for "not getting the hints" or she would have seen it already with her other friends and cousins but would be pissed at the "GUY" that he didn't take her.  On the corrollary,, if a guy asks the gal out for a movie which might come in the generally "guy's only" catagory like Sci-Fi, Action, Horror, Comic book flicks, War; and the gal is not interested,,it would be a HELLUVA lot better if the gal just said "NO,,not my kind of movie". But usually,,guys get "Hmm,,tell you later", "Abhi confirm nahin hai" etc etc. Of course the smart ones do make up fast backup plans with their guy pals to see it,,but some nutbags do miss out on great movies coz they're too gullible thinking that their "gal" would really sort out her schedule and give a confirmation to see the film,,,the confirmation sometimes comes when the movie has GONE OUT of the theatres.
  3. Relationship politics is something i've dealt with in my PART I blog on this subject. Here's some more tidbits on the matter. Situation 1:Gal likes guy and guy does not know gal likes guy - As i said in my earlier blog, girls are incredibly COY about positively stating that she likes a guy. And the funny thing is,,the gal would disclose she likes a particular guy to EVERYBODY in her circle,,,EXCEPT the guy in question. The logic behind it might be that the guy would get the buzz from others around him that so and so gal likes him and then the guy would make the "proposal" to the gal which she would gigglingly accept(or if she's a real NUTCRACKER,,will make the guy even more confused with silly refusals). If the twisted newsflow works,,all good in the end. But if it doesn't work and the guy is still aloof,,the gal mostly(speaking from personal experience) starts ranting like "oooh,,he's a idiot. Doesn't understand my feelings at all" and so forth OR,,(this one takes the cake in the cheesy-meter) the gal will start flirting with other guys in front of the principal guy in order to TRY and make him jealous that she's hanging out with other guys and not with him(guys increasingly are doing the same thing,,though speaking from the same side of the fence, i consider an UTTER waste of time,money and energy). Sort of a taunt, lure and trap action used by Wildlife hunters. And what comes of this???? Beats me...Wouldn't it be a better straight forward approach to say "I like you" and then carry it forward if it does??? Saves time,,,saves energy,,,and sure as hell cuts down on the news rounds between friends which might twist the primary issue into a whole new abomination. 
So really gals,,,after what all i've pointed out,,are you in ANY position what so ever to say what all that guys do works or doesn't work on gals when in most cases even gals' actions is nothing but a literal case study or catalogue of "HOW NOT TO WASTE TIME" or "HOW TO GET YOUR POINT ACROSS DIRECTLY"!!!!

Readers here(especially female) would point out that i'm overly critical of gals while glossing over potential similar theatrics employed by guys....Don't fret my lady readers. I'm but just stating one side of the issue right now. Rest assured i'll point out the GUY story in future blogs for the reading pleasure of you females.

So then,,,i feel i'm vidicated in my stand on how i look at things and how i react. Am i correct in doing so??? Or am i severly lost???? Give in your comments,,tell me where i'm right or wrong,,tell me where i can fine tune my ideas and actions,,tell me how to make both sides of the fence(guys and gals) cut the needless chess moves when both know what is it they both want.....EACH OTHER!!!

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Friday, October 20, 2006

Scribbles of a wandering mind

I haven't been very active with my blog for last 2 months...


Well,,one would think i had nothing to write about. On the contrary, i had plenty to write about, but somehow couldn't find the time nor the want to write it all down....Writer's block perhaps!!!!!

Now then...Time to remedy that and get on with the flow of words emcompassing everything from the greater universe and everything under it.

I don't have a particular topic to write about in this blog, so i'll just write down my observations and happenings around me for the past 2 months which have been,,,rather interesting to the discerning eye (and MIND).

Let me start with what i'd call " The Curse of FAME " !!!!!!

um,,NO..There's no DEAD person in the subject matter should you think so after reading that line. The subject matter concerns one of my closest friends (name withheld for sake of discretion) who recently had brushes with rather.....unconventional.......sort of admirers. HEHEHE.

The person i'm talking about recently came to orkut and like many others who are unaware of the "pitfalls" of the vast reach and networkability of the Net(and especially SocNet sites like Orkut,MySpace etc),,proceeded to upload pics of oneself in all it's glory (NO NO..nothing lewd or nude). Now nothing wrong in that, after all that's what pics are for...Sharing!!! But the problem arises when apart from reaching out to the core and intended audience with your profile/pics,,,you also garner unwarranted attention... I'm really beating around the bush,,aren't I?? hehe.. Oks,' let me get to the point. Getting attention from the members of the same sex is kinda odd,,,,but getting sexual advances from the same is outright spooky.....unless one is 'unconventional' himself/herself (disclaimer - i'm not very 'liberal' in matters of alternate sexuality,,so if my posts sound harsh or "homophobic",,don't start shouting). Now this person is taking such advances quite cool, hats off on that regard. I would have surely slammed that GAY person if i had such advances thrown at me. How it all pans out for his/her further communiques in orkut remains to be seen...But it sure is fun listening to the tales of such advances from that person and the replies...HEHE.

Moral of the story - Don't advertise yourself too much if you can't handle the

Another thing i have noted extensively in the past few months is the issue of female attention towards guys and vice versa. Now you ask,,what the hell has this guy noted so extensively that we don't know about?????


I never said i've noted anything NEW,,i'm just saying 'this is what I have noticed'. Chances are you know about this already. So here we go..

Haven't we usually asked the question, "Why doesn't that girl give any attention to me?", or , in a corrollary, if the girl in question turns down your advances, you say to yourself (and to your friends) " Man,,she's too arrogant. What does she think about herself??" (replace with your own quib here). Haven't we??????????

Well,,,,,i seem to have a solution that works PERFECTLY(apart from one TINY drawback,,which we'll come to LATER).

The 'plan of action' is to simply,,,,remain COOL..

Sounds like a real downer after that buildup,doesn't it???

Well,,NO it's NOT. Best way is just be casual friends with that girl until you can really figure out whether you and her can really ever be "an item" together. It's not too hard at all actually. Joke, jest, tease, flirt, call and even go out once or twice but DON'T BECOME ATTACHED....Prod to know her intentions,,but don't act is if a "Yes" or a "No" from her side will really affect you all that much. And if you can play it really cool,,,i can guaran-damn-tee that the girl will make the first move. YOU on the other hand can avoid all the uncomfortable questions like "What IF.......??????". Plus,,with this line of action,,you can actually expand your attention to many girls in and around your vicinity of action. Not only will this give you many more potential targets,,but also improve your social skills with the ladies,,provided your SKILLS are not dead to begin with. Isn't that a much better way to go about things rather than shape-shift yourself to garner the attention/approval of your lady target????? Now of course all i'm suggesting is the basic overall framework of action, how you go about it is unique to everyone. If anybody reading this has a better plan of action,,put it forward. Share it for the betterment of all mankind......ok.......MALE-kind.

Now you might be asking,,what the DRAWBACK of this plan of action is(as i pointed above)?????

The "drawback" is......the "feeling" factor that's making us go about these "plan of action" situations in the first place. You can go about that above said plan with amazing ease with as many members of the opposite sex as you want..But the problem arises when,,,you find someone who can match these steps of yours with effimate ease and can play you back. Now a guy would see that he's been "tagged" at his games and will, and SHOULD,  withdraw immediately. But that's not what some guys will do( hell even I didn't do that). I rather than withdraw, infact become more attracted towards the gal who has successfully matched these same steps as i have employed.

Now i myself face a dilemma.....

Do i stop these tactics and profess my outright liking to that gal by circumventing the "PLAN"????


Keep at it on and on till one of us totally bends in light of sustained "assaults" on each other by each other.

So now you ask,,,," We're back to square one!!!!!!!!! "

HEHE,,i never said this was going to be straightforward,,did i????

Now lady readers of this blog would surely say everything from "This guy's NUTS,this plan of action will never work." to " How MEAN!!Playing around with girls' feelings" and everything in between, but worry not guys..It's all a smokescreen to really hide the frustration that'll come up by seeing that girls' NO LONGER will have the upper hand in initiating hookups with guys. Feels Liberating doesn't it??? Try it...let me know how it works..

I guess that' all for this edition of my scribbles..Will write more later as my keen mind absorbs events from my life in the coming days and weeks..

Till then.......